Thursday, July 2, 2015

Rob: I want to be a great dad...

I think I'm a good dad but I really want to be a great dad.

I want to be kind of dad who is the envy of all the other dad's in our little corner of suburbia. The dad that calmly teaches his children valuable life lessons while doing some woodworking project.

I want to be an awesome hybrid of the 50's TV dad, but cool and actually involved in my kid's lives. The dad whose kids want to talk to about everything and trust in telling their deepest concerns and worst fears. 

I want to be the dad that all the mom's reference and say to their husbands, "Why can't you be more like Rob." The dad who jumps up and helps quiet the baby because he knows his wife is tired and could use a break without asking.

I want to be the really funny and fun dad.  The kind of dad that throws caution to the wind and puts on tutu for tea parties with the girls, Mr. Bear and Madame Monkey.  

I want to be the invincible superdad of dads.  The one whose kids think he can do no wrong when they are young and secretly still do when they are older.  

I want to be the Sigmund Freud of dads.  The father who is so wise when having those "talks" that 10 years from now, when the time comes, my kids actually do just say NO.

I want to be the stern but not too stern dad. The dad who isn't afraid to set boundaries and make punishments stick but doesn't alienate the kids.

I want to be the girl power, female empowering dad.  Someone so comfortable in his skin that when the puberty train comes rolling in, I can sit down with any of my girls and have the conversation that starts with, "So once a month all girls have this....."

I want to be the open door policy dad.  The dad that presents just the right balance of respect, cool with just a hint of scary that all of my kids friends want to hang out at our house without destroying it and and yet can confide in me if there is no one else to talk to.  

I want to be the taxi-cab, emergency service dad.  That amazing dad whose girls feel comfortable enough to call in the middle of the night when their ride has had too much to drink.  To be the dad who calmly answers the phone and drives everyone home without complaining.

I want to be the totally engaged and engaging dad.  The dad that takes an interest in his kid's interests and is not only willing, but wants to sacrifice my time for our time together.

I want to be the dad that listens.  Really, actually listens to his kids and talks to them on the same level without being condescending no matter their age.

I want to be the open minded dad who find the right balance between providing advice and respecting my children's choice.  Especially the important ones.

I want to be the dad who is liked and respected by my children's significant others.  The best kind of father-in-law.

I want to be the great dad who becomes a totally incredible granddad.  The kind of grandfather who has the energy to play withe the grandkids and doesn't bat an eye at changing a diaper.

I want to be a statue erecting in effigy dad whose name is past down to generation after generation. A symbol of "Dadness" for all future dads to aspire to.

Okay perhaps a bit over the top with the last one.

Truthfully, I'm sure there are a million things that I could add to the list above which would help me become a better dad but the bottom line is; I'm a good dad and I'm going to spend the rest of my life trying to become a great dad.





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26 comments:

  1. I'm sure you are that great dad!! A lovely post though :-)

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    1. Thank you for the kind words. I certainly have some great dad moments and some not so great ones as well. A work in progress we'll say.

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  2. In 10 years time it would be interesting to come back to this and see just how many of your prophecies came true..and I bet you'll be amazed at how many more ways they're going to come up with to make you an even prouder dad. Amazing writing -- being a dad isn't always easy, but now I've got something to come back to a re-read when the going gets tough. Great words, Rob.

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    1. Thank you for the incredibly kind words. My wife and I were just saying the other day that we hope our children can come back and read these posts years from now and appreciate our struggles and our successes.

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  3. I think aspiring to be half of those things is a big step in the right direction. Good luck!

    #bigfatlinky

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    1. Thanks. I appreciate the support. BTW I like your blog.

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  4. This is great. I think you definitely have the making of an awesome Dad, let alone great! I'm sure there will be plenty of posts to let us know how you have succeeded xx #bigfatlinky

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    1. Thanks Sarah. I think like most parents, I have some great moments and some less great moments. Hopefully the great ones are the more frequent of the two options.

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  5. The fact that you want to be that Dad and aspire to be makes you more than halfway there to achieving it. Good for you! I'm sure your kids look up to you/will do.

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    1. Appreciate the kind words Ryan and thanks for reading and commenting.

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  6. It sounds like you're already doing a great job. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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    1. Thanks Emily. I'm really enjoying the whole linking thing. It's a great opportunity to read other blogs and get to know some of the people in the community.

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  7. What a wonderful post. The fact that you have written something like this speaks volumes to me.I agree with Ryan. Welcome to #PoCoLo, thank you so much for linking and hope to see you again.

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    1. Thanks Victoria. So many wonderful comments and I really enjoyed many of the other pieces on the #PoCoLo linky. I'll definitely link up again.

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  8. yup I'm with you on that one, my aim is to be a great dad and so I know I have to work on being better at the things I don't do and the things I do. Although perhaps it is the willingness to put the effort in that makes us great :)

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    1. Too true. Perhaps it's the journey that makes the man.

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  9. This is thought provoking. What kind of Dad do I want to be? Thanks for sharing it #bigfatlinky

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  10. Thanks Al and thank you for hosting and all the hard work you do on Facebook as well. I have certainly felt welcomed right from the start.

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  11. I am sure you are a great dad great post thanks for linking to the Binkylinky

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  12. Thank you Nigel and thanks for hosting the Binkylinky.

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  13. Oh man, this gave me tingles. This is the sort of MUM I want to be...I hope you're hitting closer to the mark than I do most days!

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    1. I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job. We all have our moments. I was great with the kids tonight but this morning was a whole different story. I think we just try and do our best. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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