Saturday, June 20, 2015

Rob: 7 Things All Fathers Should Do On Father's Day

I wrote a post the other day about what Father's Day means to me. Rob: What Father's Day Means To Me  It was an emotional writing exercise for me and I found it extremely cathartic putting pen to paper.  I really enjoyed my walk down memory lane and thinking about all the wonderful times I have spent with my own father.  I also really enjoyed thinking about some of the great things that I have done with my kids and the great experiences yet to come.

However, I also made several broad, grandiose statements about how I didn't care about the actual holiday and that it wasn't about the day itself. Rather, it was that Father's Day is a symbol to spend more time with your family, reflect on our kids, reflect on our fathers, etc..

Don't worry, I still feel the same way but that post has got me thinking about what a dad should do on Father's Day.  While they are aren't big things, I think they are important, so without further ado, I present:

7 Things All Fathers Should Do On Father's Day  

1. At the very least call your dad:  I know it's not always possible to take time out on Father's Day and visit with your father.  Sometimes fathers and sons are separated by distance and sometimes they have drifted apart for other reasons and likely spending time with our own kids will inevitably take precedence.  However, I also know for those of us who are lucky enough to still have a father in our lives, the least we can do is take a few minutes and give him a call.  Even if you're not close, I'm sure he'll appreciate it.

2. Spend some time with your kids: Sounds pretty simple right?  Unfortunately all I have heard on the radio and seen on TV in the past week are dads hosts talking about getting away from their kids. Everyone talks about going golfing or out with the guys and I'm certainly not saying you shouldn't do those things.  Rather, I'm just saying that if you can, take some time out of your day and do something with the kids.  It doesn't have to be fancy or even expensive.  9 times out of 10 just spending time with them is enough although I don't really recommend sitting around and watching TV all day.

3. Start your day right:  I'm not sure what your vision of the perfect start to a day is.  Heck, I'm not even sure what my perfect start to the day is, but I do know Father's Day is probably the one day in the entire year where at least for the first couple of hours, you get to call the shots.  Spend a bit of time and come up with something that will put you in a great mood from the moment you open your eyes.

4. Thank your wife or partner: Sounds stupid right, but for those lucky enough to have someone special in our lives, sharing our parenting journey, even on our special day, I think it's worth telling them how important they are to us.  I know my journey as a father would be infinitely harder and a lot less enjoyable without my wife walking through it with me.

5. Do something that you want to do (within reason): I know just a few paragraphs above I was questioning the golfing or going out with the buddies concepts so I'm not talking about going on an 8 hour fishing trip. Rather, is there something that you don't often get the chance to do or do you have a favorite dish that you never eat? Why not take advantage and do something special together with the entire family.


6. Call your dad: It's worth saying twice.

7. Take a few minutes for a friend: What??? Let me explain. I think most of us know someone who has lost their father or even children and could use some support. I honestly think one of my favorite Father's Day moments was when we invited a good family friend who had lost his father to join us for an activity with my dad, my brother and I.  I could tell that it meant a lot to him and frankly, the memory has really stuck with me so take a few minutes and reach out to someone who might not be having the best Father's Day.  I'm sure you won't regret it.    

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    1. Thanks. I know he really appreciated it and to be honest, I knew his father so it was good for me too. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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